9 Critical Values to Teach Your Preschooler at Home

by Cindi Pennington on February 27, 2017

Values to Teach Your Preschooler

Choosing the right preschool is very important, but the teaching you provide in your home is far more important.  Even though your child is young, she is learning at an incredible rate. Think of the last time (I bet it wasn’t long ago) that you were shocked by what she learned!

Preschool years are critical years for laying a foundation for the rest of their lives.  You have an incredible opportunity to build and shape this young life for success in the work place, for healthy relationships, for the development of personal integrity, and a satisfying future. 

Don’t undervalue your critical role.  Don’t miss the opportunity to make a difference!

1) Respect

  • Demonstrate respect in how you speak and respond to her and to others.  
  • Demonstrate respect in how you care for your home and for the belongings of others.
  • Teach her to show respect by looking in people’s eyes when they talk to her.
  • Teach respect in how she treats her own toys and the belongings of others.
  • Teach her to respect herself by not allowing anyone to touch her inappropriately.
  • Teach her to respect herself by caring for herself: brushing teeth, washing hands, etc.


2) Obedience

  • Demonstrate obedience to the authorities (boss, police, etc.) in your life by your actions and the way you speak about them.
  • Teach obedience by first getting eye contact, communicating in a clear way, and asking her to    repeat back what is expected. Make it clear that there will be appropriate consequences if she       does not choose obedience.  Do this in a calm, controlled manner.
  • Consistently expect obedience at home.
  • Praise her for obedience.       


3) Learning

  • Demonstrate the value of learning by being a learner yourself.
  • Consistently show an interest in what she learns at school.
  • Read books to her. Let her see you reading.
  • Be alert to every learning opportunity.

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4) Work

  • Work hard around the home. Talk about the satisfaction of a job done well.
  • Assign her age-appropriate chores in the home (picking up toys, putting clothes in the hamper, putting books away, emptying a small trash can, giving the dog a treat, etc.)
  • Initially teach her how to do the chore by doing it with her.
  • Praise her for a job well done.


5) Truthfulness

  • Demonstrate truthfulness in your home.
  • Praise examples of truthfulness in her life and in the lives of others.
  • Expect truthfulness in communication. It is never okay to lie.
  • If she lies, have consequences. Don’t let it just pass.

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6) Forgiveness

  • Teach forgiveness by example in family relationships. Quickly ask for and grant forgiveness.
  • When you have behaved impatiently, etc., tell her that you are sorry and ask for forgiveness.
  • When she offends, hurts, etc. others, teach her to say she’s sorry and ask for forgiveness.


7) Gratefulness

  • Teach her the meaning of gratefulness: feeling and showing appreciation to others.
  • Teach your child to express thankfulness in daily life. When someone does something for her, she should say “thank you.”
  • Pray and thank God before eating.


8) Love

  • Demonstrate love to others by being consistently patient, kind, and helpful.
  • When selfishness occurs, ask, “Is that showing love to ________?”Or “Is that being kind to ____________?” “Are you showing patience to ________?”
  • Teach her that loving someone can mean letting others go first.


9) God

  • “What comes into our minds when we think about God is the most important thing about us.” A.W. Tozer
  • The foundation of our values springs from what we know about God.
  • What we know about God comes from the Bible.
  • Finding and attending a church that faithfully proclaims the Word of God enables you to gain a deeper appreciation of God’s character.


Every adult is teaching values every day.

Let’s make sure that as parents we are living examples before our children. Why_Preschool_Matters_Email_On-Demand_600x200