Parenting children uniquely reveals your strengths and weaknesses. In this broken world, broken parents can never be perfect, but we can learn to emphasize the most important things.
In order for your child to pick up on emphases, however, he or she must hear them and see them nearly every day. It's easy to make one of two errors.
First, it's easy to naively assume that mere words will communicate your values. If these words are not backed up by action, however, they will ring hollow.
The second error is to assume that your child will interpret your actions and learn the lessons behind them. They need to hear the words, not just see the actions.
Like a good song, the music must fit the words. If your words say one thing and your actions another, it'll fit no better than a poorly matching tune. But without the words, music can only communicate so much.
There are at least six things your preschooler should hear from you on a consistent basis.
Waiting isn't fun for anyone. I used to think I was good at waiting. Then I entered the grocery store, the DMV, went to a restaurant, an amusement park, and drove my car around town. Like I said, waiting isn't fun for anyone.
If patience doesn't come naturally to adults, it certainly doesn't come naturally to preschoolers. Think of just some of the factors working against your child:
- Our culture of instant gratification
- Their own short attention spans
- Natural human selfishness
- Electronic devices
Since patience doesn't come naturally to any of us, it must be learned through consistent instruction. Here are four ways to help your preschooler learn how to wait.
I knew my parents couldn't do anything, so I sat down in the middle of the store and started to scream. This sent them into a full scurry and ended in me getting the toy I wanted in the first place. I'm sure I'm not the only one to use this strategy as a child.
Children through tantrums for a variety of reasons:
- to express frustration
- to demand attention
- to get a toy or other object
- to escape or delay some undesirable activity or consequence
A tantrum gives a preschooler a very real sense of control. It gives them an advantage; it gives them leverage. How can we as parents learn to respond to those tantrums in a helpful way?
There's almost nothing that is more difficult as a parent than regularly facing outbursts of anger and aggression from your children. But you're not alone; children are increasingly expressing anger or frustration—both in public and in private.
Our culture of violent video games, news stories, television shows, movies, and music has only made controlling fits of anger more difficult for children.
There is a way out! With consistency you can train your children to respond in calmness and not in anger. Here are five secrets to help your child learn constructive ways of expressing anger or frustration.
Parenting little ones finds a way of exposing our edges. We find we can love more than we thought possible; our selfishness, however, also extends further than we could see.
Often when we think of routine, we think b-o-r-i-n-g. Not so! In a home, routines can really make life function smoother and help eliminate stress. Even preschool-aged children are quick to learn and often very eager helpers. You might be surprised how little changes can make a very big difference for you and your children.
Here are some simple suggestions. Just pick one and begin putting it into practice today!
We all want our children to do right. This is especially true if you're a Christian.
You have a responsibility before God to raise your child in the teaching and admonition of the Lord (Ephesians 6:4). Raising children to know God and his Word has long been an emphasis of biblical teaching (cf. Deuteronomy 6:4ff).
This commitment to raising children to do right can easily wear down any parent. After the 10th time of saying "no," you tire of your role and your kid tires of you.
Is it possible to correct your child without just saying "no" over and over again? Yes! Here are 10 ways to say "no" without saying "no" over and over again.
There’s nothing like the connection between a parent and a child. For that reason, perhaps nothing builds angst and heartache in the heart of a parent like struggling to bond with a child.
It’s not just heartache that we feel though. We often feel shame. Why am I struggling to connect with my own child? What am I doing wrong? How can I strengthen that bond?
Consider these five ways to bond with your child.
Sometimes a parent is tempted to do a chore because they can do it faster or better themselves. Other times they feel guilty about having their children do chores because they just want them to enjoy being kids.
Interestingly, a survey by Braun Research in 2014 found that of 82% of parents who said they had regular chores growing up, only 28% ask their children to do any. So, what’s the scoop on chores?
Is there any value to having your children participate in household chores? Should you make your preschooler do chores?
“Mommy, I need another drink of water.”
“I forgot to go potty!”
“My toe really itches.”
These and countless more cries right at bedtime can drag out a preschooler’s bedtime routine, and bring stress and frustration for you as the parent.
Just as your preschooler needs plenty of sleep, so you need some kid-free time after your preschooler goes to bed. But a poorly managed tuck-in time can imperil your preschooler’s sleep--and your sanity.
So what can you do to have a positive, stress-free bedtime routine? Consider these five tips.
The world that our children are growing up in is vastly different than the world in which we grew up. It is very important—even with our preschoolers—to prepare them for their world and not make the mistake of leaving them naïve.
While we do not want our children to live in fear, there are dangerous people that they should fear. Statistically, a child is much more likely to be abused or harmed by someone they know rather than a stranger. To prepare them for any scenario, it's important to provide them enough information without making them oversensitive.
Here are a few simple things that we can teach our preschoolers to help protect themselves.